I follow the Marriage page on Facebook and I first saw it on one of my friend's Facebook before I saw it on their page. It's very true. My husband and I actually talked about this Sunday after church.
You've got to put 100% on your marriage including the spouse. You give 100% and expect nothing in return. Just hope that your spouse will do the same. If they don't, well don't stop whatever you are doing.
Saturday evening, after getting home from work and getting things done around the home to make the house feel like home when Jason gets home from work, I had gone to Reed's Dairy to get ice cream AND Egg nog, which is my husband's favorite type of egg nog. The good thing about it, Jason can have that full half gallon of egg nog by himself, because I don't like egg nog; yuck!
But once I heard Jason come home from work, I came running downstairs and straight to the fridge and took out his egg nog, he then said; how grateful he is to have me in my life and said that he had a HORRIBLE day at work, the wedding that he DJ just sucked, no one danced and they just complained!! Now my husband is actually a fantastic DJ, the wedding guests and the bride and groom just didn't dance. They are more of a party kind of people. The people who were complaining weren't dancing either. But whatever, he got some egg nog.
As Jason was explaining me about the 100% giving and 0% receiving, he mentioned how I did just that on Saturday evening. He then gave me a few things that I might like, which was cuddling with me and keeping me warm as his food was heating up. I enjoyed every moment. Jason isn't much of a cuddlier either.
Knowing Jason and him telling me so, he is the type of guy, as he watches me getting up in the morning and getting things done around the house and working and everything; he will look at himself and see if he is doing something along those lines, if he isn't and just sitting down on his bum watching shows or sleeping in for hours, then he is going to feel like poop!!
Mine and my husband's goal for this week, and along the years is;
- Waking up at 6AM
- Having personal time, reading the scriptures or other personal growth
- Work out together every morning.
- Me work out again every evening.
I love this idea!! I needed to be reminded of this today. Just the other day my husband and I had a big disagreement on who should have to wash the dishes because I had done it last time and was in the middle of something else but his last time doing the dishes was a lot of them so he felt like I should do them. I think if I were giving 100% all the time, we wouldn't have that problem.
ReplyDeleteAlso by just seeing the dishes need to be done, just do it. I HATE doing the dishes. In the beginning of our marriage as long as I do the laundry he does the dishes. Well that never actually really happened. So I ended up doing both the laundry and the dishes. Now since I'm at work my husband does the dishes every once in awhile. Possibly once a month. But it's okay, because when he does do it, it means a lot more every time.
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