Problems and Solutions in Marriage

Wednesday was such a lazy day for us, got a special gift and we were just drained. Had ordered some pizza and some icees in bed as we watched Part 1 of the Bachelorette Finale. (Last season of the Bachelor with Sean, he wouldn't deny of watching it, he love it) Anyways, he didn't watch much this season, but whenever I watch it and he is around, he tends to watch it with me. Which is what happened this morning, or afternoon. I ended up falling asleep, it was so good but I seriously couldn't keep my eyes open any longer. 

Anyways, that's not what I was going to talk about. I have been hearing this song a lot lately;

"Just Give Me A Reason" Pink Ft. Nate Ruess

Marriage isn't perfect, not at all. Jason and I have a lot of arguments. Most of the time it's me thinking and saying; "You don't love me enough"...kind of stuff. Which I also tell him, I know that you love me but I want you to show more of it, my love language. This song makes me cry every time when Jason and I have those kind of arguments.

Then I remember our first argument-It was something about my dad mentioning Jason asking for my hand in marriage, and Jason wanted it to be a surprise. I love my dad, but don't trust my dad completely with secrets. (I guess that's where I got it from)....actually I can keep secrets, but I can't just lie and I'm very honest and I'm TOO honest and say too much.

"I Won't Give Up" Jason Mraz

Well we were on Skype and I was listening to this song all day-thought; "Wow this is so us right now" I played it to him and we both started crying. We missed each other so much and it doesn't matter about that argument. We talked it out and everything was all dandy a few minutes later.

It has been almost a year since we have been married and man Jason has changed so much, as did I. I have brought this up today, even looking at one of my best friends here in Idaho Falls that she is having trouble. We know her husband and lets just say, he does nothing at home. She does EVERYTHING, including going to work so they can pay off debts. So I told Jason that thee are some days that I will leave the things over at our place to help her, because she has a little girl who needs her attention. He would love to help, but that wouldn't be appropriate. I love her to death! I want to help her in every way. She is still a teen, but acts like a real adult, or acts like my age. Jason brought up, that it was Heavenly Father's plan for us to really meet and become best friends so we can help each other out. Including helping her out a lot more. I do want her to live a wonderful life. Even though, like I said, we aren't perfect. Just a couple days ago we were having an argument on the way to Island Park. In the end we didn't really know why we were arguing, at least I don't remember.

In the beginning of marriage, was the toughest, I would cry myself to sleep so many times. I even thought a lot about my ex, which is bad! But I brushed it off and thought about my husband more; what can I do to help him. Jason brought up two things that helps men step up in their family duties.

1) Men seeing his wife doing everything, cleaning, making dinner, taking the kids places, having their kids' friends come over and making food for them, going out to get food at the store, eearns, personal scripture study, working out, etc then he will look at himself and feel like crap and will eventually help (THIS IS MY HUSBAND)

2) The wife will do nothing until the husband does something, as in help them. (This isn't the way to go)

I am so grateful for my husband for working so hard and treating me like I am a Queen. Doesn't matter with the bad things in a marriage, all we can do is talk it out, make up and move forward. If it doesn't happen again, at least show that you are willing to do it again. With the spouse being patient, which I was horrible at, but have gotten better; I hope.