Friends

I miss my friends back when I was single and only dating

They are still my best friends, but friends that still in a thousand miles away in California. (Katie and Kimbri. Girl on the right is married) "The three K's" Known each other since birth! 

Don't remember why I was wearing my glasses.....I think I had to wear them during that week, or two (because my car broke down during that trip) I possibly lost my contacts. (I still have those glasses, I NEED a new pair now)

We spent a lot of time together. My "litter little sister"

My best friend back in Palmdale when I was going through a rough time. I love her so much and miss her too!! We have long walks around her neighborhood a lot, since I didn't live too far, just less than a mile away. She comes out to Idaho here and there and give me some "romantic" advice. My husband wants her to give me advice.

JUST before I had met Jason in person. I honestly had a lot of guy friends. I loved hanging out with the guys, some of them did have a thing for me, but in the end we were just friends.

They were too tired and slept on me. I guess I'm a pillow to lay on.

So ever since I had met Jason, my friends has slowly drifted away. 1) Because everyone was leaving Southern California like no bodies business. (Off on missions-he girls, and off to BYUI or Anywhere in Utah-mostly the guys and some girls) Me I was about to go on my mission, but ended up staying so I could get married. It was the toughest decision in my whole life! and 2) Some of my friends didn't agree with me for staying instead of leaving.

My relationship with Jason was pretty quick for a lot of people. My best friend Katie and Jason's best friend Andrew didn't want us to take things so fast. We of course didn't listen to them and we showed them. We would have been married for a year next weekend. We love each other, and that's the only thing that matters. We have our rough patches but we talk through them and get past it. Our arguments have been a lot less than it used to be though. The first year sure is the HARDEST!! But someone has said this to us, the first 50 years is the hardest also. Jason and I have gotten through the toughest patches in life and will move forward to more bumps on the road.

So now to the friends I used to have. We all moved on with our lives. Moved away, missions and gotten married. Once your married, you are very limited on your friends. Even when you don't agree and don't actually see it, it's actually really true! Having a lot of guy friends before marriage; I can't spend time with them anymore. Even when I want to be one of the guys. I can if they are Jason's friends. Which I am perfectly fine with! Jason's friends are great!! Same goes with Jason, he can't spend time with the friends that are girls anymore, which he really didn't have any friends that were girls. When he did, they were girls that he dated. I've actually seen the past 2 ex girlfriends of his since we've been married. Hung out with one of them when Jason and I were only dating, it was a bit awkward, but I was okay. I love being with friends with anyone.

Jason with his friends

With my girl friends, now that's a different story. You can still be friends with them all, but once you get married, it's hard keeping in touch and what not. With Jason and his friends I make him go hang out with his friends, I don't want him to hang out with me 24/7. Sometimes I do tag along, but Jason is still as happy as he would be alone with them. I trust those guys, the ones who are married, he talks about stuff that he would never say with his single friends. Sometimes when he is with his single guy friends, he goes ahead and tries to hook them up with girls.
I have slowly lost touch with my single girl friends, which I really do miss them! I do keep Facebook up to date to let people know how things are going (mostly for my parents sake) For the married friends, we are so dang busy! My next door neighbor, they are celebrating their one year this weekend. The guy-Jason and him has been friends for a long time; we are all doing USANA and his parents and Jason's parents are also doing the same thing. Well all love it. We are next door neighbors but so busy! We see them at church, but haven't actually hung out with each other. There did come a wonderful new friend for me about 2 or 3 months ago. We were always with each other. I would come over to her place; which was right around the corner to our place. Or she would come over to our place. But a month and a half ago, things changed-she had her baby. We still spend time with each other, but it's a bit different now.

Spending time with my friend's daughter

We shall always move on and never actually forget the good times and never forget our friends who we were always there for each other. Someday the single friends will be married and maybe will become best of friends again or even I'll eventually have kids and we will have playdates for our children. That day isn't today or for awhile. I'll just let live take it's toll and will always try and meet new people. I was talking to one of my good friends who is also married with no kids. She also is in the same boat with me. She said that, that's possibly why she blogs. That's why I blog too...

Besides all that, it's time for family! It's a special day for my brother in-law as he is getting his endowments for our church!!